Wednesday 27 March 2013

Not a natural blogger?

I don't think "blogging" is going to be my "thing" :)
Two entries in four years isn't exactly productive! The daft thing is I like to write - although a lot of it gets done in my head. When it actually comes to putting it down on "paper" - real or virtual - all the thoughts that seemed so well constructed and valid, seem to disappear into the ether!
This is the bones of something I was pondering the other day - about family.

No Girls Allowed?

I recently realised that there are a distinct lack of females in my family. I am one of three children, but the only girl. My mom was one of five, but again the only girl. My dad was one of three boys (although there was a half sister who we lost contact with when I was a child. My dads family history is very murky!) I never knew my paternal grandmother (more murk!) and my maternal grandmother died when I was ten, although we had been fairly close up to then. So apart from me and my mom, the nearest female blood relatives I had growing up were cousins, and not many of those. And I didn't get to spend a lot of time with them.

The newer generation was no better. I have no children, my younger brother has none either, and the middle one had two boys, now in their twenties. My younger nephew has bucked the family trend by having a daughter - the first girl since I arrived 50 years earlier!

I got to wondering whether this lack of close female ties when I was growing up has anything to do with my distinct lack of any desire to involve myself with anything labelled "girls/womens/ladies" stuff. I don't enjoy groups of women doing things, and I object to being sent off to sit with the "girls" if we are out with a group of people. I have a few female friends that I am close to, but a "girls night" has never been my idea of a good time. I don't really get the whole "girly" thing - clothes, make up, etc..... and I wonder if I would have been different with more of a female input when I was young?

We will never know!